Please keep in mind that you asked these questions.
Living by the premise that you begin easy and escalate, I’ll answer the easy questions first. After all, I always saved my veggies for last.
Debbie York asked,
How do you balance it all?
I don’t have any balance at all – never have. I can trip over air.
The truth is that I cannot balance it ALL – all the expectations of others, the demands of being a pastor’s wife, the needs of my family, and the list goes on and on.
Unfortunately I’m not Wonder Woman, and I fail miserably every time I attempt to do it all. Now, I do what I feel like the Lord wants me to do. Even when I’ve got my priorities in order, something has to slide. There aren’t enough hours in the day. It’s usually housework because I hate housework. I’m not above hiding a dirty pan in the oven when somebody knocks on my door.
I’ve also learned to say NO. An appointment on my calendar to play Monopoly with my kids is every bit as important as the latest women’s social circle meeting. I’ve also learned that I don’t owe everybody a look at my calendar. Sometimes I’m busy laying on the couch watching TV with FringeMan, but I don’t need to explain that when declining an invitation. I know I sound terrible, but I’m just being real.
At this moment, my life is relatively calm. Not long ago, I was in school finishing my Master’s degree, taking care of two small kids, working outside the home, and leading many church related ministries. To ensure balance, I did not look past that day. If I looked beyond my to-do list for any given day, I’d stress myself into a mock heart-attack.
The Texas Woman asked,
Will you and FringeMan have more FringeChildren?
If FringeMan would like to carry our next child, I’m all for it!
Seriously, I’ve given that question much thought recently. You see my baby, FringeBoy, just turned nine and I like babies. They are warm, cuddly, and have fuzzy little heads; however, they spit-up, poop at the most inappropriate times, and cry in the wee hours of morning.
Because I cannot birth a nine year-old son like FringeBoy requested, I’ll have to say NO.
I had pre-enclampsia twice and was on bed rest for both my pregnancies. I know I’m lazy, but spending months in bed rots. I looked like a hot-air balloon and my blood pressure gurgled to boiling. Not a good combination.
Besides my ‘little’ girl was 9lbs, 8oz. I fear the size of a third child.
PJ Hornberger asked,
What’s your favorite meal to cook?
My favorite meal is take-out, but that’s not the question. I enjoy baking cakes and breads more than I like to cook meals. My favorite meal to cook is bean burritos. Takes about 5 minutes and clean-up is a cinch.
How is it having 2 kids in school? I’m not sure if you are home schooling or public or Christian schooling.
Do you have an outside job?
2 kids in school = 2 words PEACE & QUIET
The FringeKids attend public school and I’m as excited as the mom in the Staples commercial when September rolls around. I dance through the aisles gladly throwing school supplies into my cart.
At the moment, I’m unemployed. I’m also enjoying it! I’ve worked outside my home for much of my married life. Presently I lie around eating bon-bons all day. I’m also attempting some freelance writing, but bon-bons take priority.