Decisions

I started this blog in fall of 2008.  It’s hard to believe I’ve been blogging for that long, but here we are five and half years later.

That’s a long time for bloggers to stick around, a looooong time.

Lately, The Domestic Fringe has been going through a mid-life crisis, or maybe it’s just me.

You see, I started this blog as a hobby, a fun way to recount the daily happenings of my life and the lives of my husband and kids.  I wrote about whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.  I didn’t sit and rework my words.  I didn’t wonder what sentences could be misinterpreted or misunderstood.  I actually never considered writing what my readers wanted to read.

I just wrote.

Some days I didn’t even include a picture.

*Gasp*

That’s like the unpardonable sin of blogging today.

Now, it’s all about following the rules, writing pin-worthy blog posts, being informative and useful.  Blogging is about having purpose, about telling a moving story.  It’s about changing the world in 500 hundred words or less, with 3-5 crisp images.

It’s about self-promotion times ten.

I’m kinda not in love with what it’s become.

So, I feel like I’m at a crossroads.

Do I blog because I love it, regardless of what any of you think?

Do I write whatever pops into my mind, even if it is senseless dribble?

Am I wasting your time dear readers?

I know you all read for a different purpose.  Some of you enjoy humor, while others enjoy my faith posts.  Some of you read because you want to keep up with my family.  None of you read for the recipes; however, I continue to be optimistic about my cooking.  (Joke.  I’m only optimistic about eating.)

Anyway, I honestly don’t have any higher purpose or calling for writing.  When I blog, I want to do it because I love it, even if there’s no big money involved, even if I only have a handful of readers, and even if no-one pats me on the back for it.

So, this summer, I think I’m going back to my blogging roots – no schedules, no pressure, no rules.  If you want to hang around, I’ll be thrilled.  If not, I totally understand.

There are a zillion other wonderful blogs out there that you’ll love.  If you need a few recommendations, don’t hesitate to ask.

Otherwise, we’re doing it old-school baby.

And, it’s gonna be fun.

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Comments

  1. says

    I know I’m a little late reading this post, but man, I feel ya. When it becomes a business it’s tough! And the self promotion, READ ME, READ ME READ ME!! is so tiring. There are days when I want to just walk away from it all. But there are good things too, like the people you get to meet :) Hope you hang in there, but even if not, at least we’re still friends!

  2. says

    I think this is wonderful! Your writing is wonderful! And when its directly from your deepest heart – it will be the best! I’m proud of you and excited to see what’s in store! Keep up the good work my friend! Love – heather

  3. says

    I agree that blogging has gotten out of control. I don’t blog nearly as much but when I do, it’s for the same reason I started: to write what I had to say. I’d say stick to your gut. Write when you want and what you want. Don’t worry about everyone else. Your true readers will stick around for you!

  4. says

    I love reading about your random, day to day life – even your recipes! :-) Makes me wish I could live next door to you. :-) I honestly haven’t checked in much since you’ve changed your style to a more business-oriented approach – just cause I like the relational aspect of blogs rather than the advertising. Do what inspires you.

  5. says

    Hi Tricia, I think your blog is great. I love the randomness and your free spirit. You are a wonderful witty writer and I look forward to your posts no matter the subject. Blog because you want to not because you have to. Cheers

  6. says

    I’ve recently been feeling the same way and I haven’t been doing this for nearly as long as you have. I think sometimes we have to examine what we’re doing and make sure it still works — for ourselves, for our families, for our readers, and for God. Check that and put God first.
    Anyway. I’ll still be reading you whenever you post. :-)

  7. says

    Awesome!!! Sounds good to me! I love your blog and think you are a gifted writer because you are able to write about a variety of topics all with the same humor and interest that pulls me in. I’m kind-of stuck in the place between blogging as I can and keeping a schedule of at least 3x’s a week. Sometimes I can rock the schedule and sometimes I fall behind. But I give myself grace and move on. It will all be okay! I always look forward to your posts! xo

  8. tckk says

    I love blogging just for fun! I’ll never have tons of followers, but that’s okay. Sometimes I get so caught up in the numbers and that’s really not what I want it to be about either. I just want sort of a journal about what’s going on or what I’m thinking about. I enjoying playing along with some of the different memes and I love taking pictures and showing them to anyone who wants to see it.

    I love reading your blog when you are just having fun and being you. So, I’m looking forward to reading you this summer.

  9. says

    I am an old-school blogger, and I don’t think I can ever change. I write about what interests me, and for my family–probably the reason my blog has flat-lined in terms of comments. :0

    But I’ll read yours no matter what you write. You are an interesting and engaging writer, and I enjoy it.

  10. Marianne says

    That sounds great! It will be the best if you do it from the heart, and do it how it brings you pleasure! I know I have enjoys your writing and hearing about your family right from the start!

  11. Kim says

    I love reading your blog about everyday, ordinary life. Do it because you love it! I can relate to so many of the things you write about. You’re a great example of being comfortable in your own skin.

  12. Mom says

    No pressure, but I love reading your blog. I know writing has made you happy since you first learned how to hold a pen. Write when you feel the urge to write and we will be here to enjoy it when you do. Who says it has to be everyday or once a week. I love you and support whatever you decide to do.

  13. Karla Smith says

    If there is anything that irks me today is that we have to explain ourselves in case someone will get us wrong. I think that you should continue to blog and say what ever is in your mind. I love your wittiness and think that if you are even a smidgen in person like you are in your writings, you are fun and interesting to be around.

    I wish there were no such thing as political correctness… and there were no people that were offended over the tiniest things. People now-a-days have too many chips on their shoulders and need to loosen up a bit. I like the way you write.. the quirkiness and wit. Although I do not have time to comment on each one, I look forward to reading all your blogs. If i don’t have time to read them, I put them in a ‘file’ that I have named “Domestic Fringe” and when I get a few minutes to spare…I read them. I have had several weeks worth of them I read at once.

    I agree that your blogs are not a waste of time; and I would be VERY disappointed if you stopped.

  14. says

    I guess I don’t think too hard about what I’m doing-ha! Maybe I should. I write because I enjoy it, and my family loves it. I like having so much of our family story recorded, and I suppose that’s always been my purpose. I still enjoy reading your blog, random or not. I aim for three -four times a week, but if it doesn’t happen I don’t beat myself up.

  15. Kristin says

    I TOTALLY understand where you are. I blog because I enjoy writing. My subtitle is “Kristin’s Random Thoughts”. It truly is super random and I enjoy it. Comments have dropped over the years and I panic a bit but then remember, I write for me.
    It so has turned to “Pin-worthy” and conferences and self-promotion for shops. The blogs I still sit and read (yours included) are those that aren’t that way. I like to read what women (and a few men) write. When they write random things. When they post about struggles. When they share praises. When they share their favorite new easy recipe. I find myself scrolling past posts that are pushing a product or event or brand.
    So, I think it’s up to you (duh). Do you enjoy it?
    Recently a friend told me she had been praying my blog would become famous. I asked her to stop praying for that and start praying for a husband for me. :-) But really, I don’t want a famous blog. I don’t want to deal with sponsors and the pressure of having to write every day. I write when I like. That’s OK.

  16. says

    I love all of your posts. I love following your family news. I love the fashion/recipes/faith etc… I’ve even made some of the recipes because well, They are yummy! You should write what you love. I don’t post sometimes for months, ’cause life gets in the way. You go back to your roots, we’ll be there to read all about them. :o)

  17. Cherie says

    I read every post you make. So, keep writing the blog. It’s not a waste of time. But do what you feel you need to do. I think a post every day would be hard to do! I don’t know how you do it! So, that amazes me!!!

  18. Judy says

    Just be who God created you to be and write about that which brings YOU joy! It is obvious you are a gifted wife, mother and writer!!

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