I’m a bad friend.
Ok, I said it. It’s out in the open.
I’m a better friend if you live close to me, but if you’re far away, I’m sorry.
I hate the telephone with a passion that rivals my love for chocolate. It’s the love/hate thing.
Now, I like snapping pictures with my phone, playing games, and checking Facebook, but talking? Well, not so much.
The problem is that I have a lot of friends who are far away. I went out-of-state to college, so I have those friends who are scattered throughout the country. Then I lived in Maine (love you Maine friends), but I don’t pick-up the phone nearly often enough.
Thankfully, my friends know me and they forgive me and they call me. That way I have to talk on the phone.
Even when my husband and I were dating, he’d call and most often I’d say, “Hang up and come over.”
It’s like I can’t speak to you unless I can see your face.
It’s one of my quirks (and yes, I have many).
One of my friends who I’ve known forever is good at being a friend. She’s smart too. You see, she’s got this system going and it’s brilliant.
She knows her friends well enough to know what they need.
One person may need a call once or twice a week to “check-in”, while another only needs a call every two weeks. Another friend is good with a once a month catch-up chat. It’s revolutionary. She gives her friends what they need and then everyone is happy.
Translate this method into your life. Perhaps you can grab a coffee with a friend once a month or get together for a playdate with the moms in your neighborhood weekly. Find out what keeps your friends and you feeling connected and then make a plan.
Relationships take work, but it’s good work.
And besides, being a good friend is worth the effort, even if it means talking on the phone.
Now please excuse me. I have a few calls to make.
One of the cool things about being down in the Atlanta area (besides Publix!) was getting to meet up with a blog reader. Heather met me for coffee and danishes and she made this adorable apron for me. I love it SO much!
She’s super talented and she has a fun shop that you must visit. She also asked me to write about friendship, so this will be a little mini-series.
Thanks, Heather, for the apron, the friend date, and the topic suggestion.